A living witness of Franciscan fraternal life
St Anthony Friary was established in 1991, alongside the founding of our Custody of St Anthony (Malaysia-Singapore-Brunei). It was to be the Mother House of our regional entity – a place of prayer, formation, governance, and mission. As Guardian of this house 30 years or so later, I am privileged to witness the constant, quiet unfolding of grace in our daily fraternal life. Our friary is not merely a place where brothers sleep and eat; it is a living organism, where prayer breathes life into ministry, where work finds rhythm in contemplation, and where individual vocations are nurtured in communion with others.
In 2025, our community comprises 14 friars – one from Sri Lanka, two from Malaysia, and 11 from Singapore. This cultural diversity enriches our community for each brother brings his story, his temperament, his faith journey into the fabric of the community, adding texture and depth to our common life.
Our friary is the Custody’s house for postulancy, and this year, we are blessed with four postulants: Mark Lee from Malaysia, and Samuel Tan, Daniel Xavier, and Jason Ng from Singapore. To accompany these young men in their year of discernment is a joy and a sacred responsibility. They remind us older brothers of the raw questions and youthful hopes that brought us to the friary gates. Their energy and curiosity infuse the house with fresh life, even as they learn the demands and disciplines of our vocation.
The life of the friary is structured yet deeply human. Our days begin with meditation at 6.45am, followed by Lauds and the Eucharist at 7am. These shared moments of stillness and praise set the tone for the rest of the day. Breakfast follows, before each brother departs for his respective ministry or study. At 12.30pm, we reconvene for lunch – another opportunity for fraternal sharing. In the evenings, after a full day of work or apostolate, we gather for meditation at 5.45pm, then Vespers at 6pm, before sharing our evening meal.
Our friary is a working house; nearly every friar is actively engaged in ministry. It is alive with movement, tasks, and pastoral outreach, but underlying this is our steady fraternal rhythm anchored in prayer, mutual support, and shared table.
Each brother contributes to the life of the Custody and the Church in different ways. Friar Justin Lim, with quiet dedication, manages our Columbarium, offering pastoral care to grieving families and tending to the memory of the departed. Friar John Paul Tan tirelessly promotes vocations, engaging the youth and animating them with the spirit of Francis. Friar Joseph Nasanathan is the Holy Land Commissary, fostering a deeper love for the land of Christ and building connections with the wider Church. He is also our Custody’s Secretary of Formation, helping to coordinate and support the journey of our younger brothers across various stages of initial formation.
Among us is Friar Rowland Yeo, whose hearing impairment has never been a limitation. His ministry to the deaf community, and his teaching of sign language to student friars and laity alike are a powerful witness to inclusion, resilience, and the creativity of love.
St Anthony Friary is also home to our Custos, Friar Derrick Yap. Despite the administrative load he carries, he remains actively involved in teaching and forming seminarians at the St Francis Xavier Major Seminary. His leadership is both fatherly and fraternal – always present, always encouraging.
Four friars minister in various capacities in our parish of St Mary of the Angels. Friar Michael D’Cruz serves as parish priest, supported by Friars Julian Mariaratnam, Robin Toha, and me. The parish brings us close to the people – into their joys, their struggles, their search for God. It is in these pastoral encounters that our fraternity is often tested and deepened, as we carry the burdens of others together, not alone.
I am reminded daily that to be a Guardian is about care. The Latin root of “guardian” (guardare) means to watch over, to tend. I see myself as a shepherd, a keeper of the communal flame, ensuring that no brother is left isolated, unheard, or unseen.
With so many of us engaged in external work, there is always the temptation to neglect community life. But we try to resist this. Our common prayers are non-negotiable. Our meals are not rushed. Our house gatherings are sacred times to listen, clarify, and support. Fraternity is not an automatic fruit of religious life – it is a discipline, a grace, and a daily decision.
Living together under one roof, with cultural differences, varied temperaments, and diverse workloads, we are bound to face tensions and misunderstandings. However, it is precisely in this crucible of shared life that the Gospel becomes real. We learn patience. We learn to forgive. We learn to laugh together – often at ourselves – and to carry one another in times of sorrow.
As I look at our community, I see a house alive with possibilities. St Anthony Friary is, in many ways, the beating heart of our Custody – not just because it is the administrative centre, but because it is a living witness to the kind of brotherhood St Francis dreamed of – simple, joyful, prayerful, and ever open to God’s surprises.
Friar Aiden Peter Jr OFM
Guardian, St Anthony Friary
